AAPEL - The association is intented to help Borderline peoples

Association's Missions
read the association's statutes (in french)

Reminder:

The association is intented to help people suffering of a personality disorder. In particular the Borderline disorder
The association is intented to help the "NON" (non-patients) , those who "know", support, the close relations, families circle of the patients

Among the problems which arise for peoples suffering of this personality disorder

They don't think of being "salvable" and don't think to "deserve it" whereas " We can cure "
They have "the practice" and tend to think that suffering belongs to the life's "normality"
They tend to think that it is their "nature" to be thus
They have a true inner loneliness based on their quasi impossibility to really entrust (not even with their close relations)
They are in the inability to have a well-adjusted life (spouse, childrens, friends...) like "everyone"
They were sometimes overprotected. Their problems being often minimized since always by their entourage
They are able to hide their illness during years (that complicates the awakenings)
They are adult but with a emotional mind of child, and speaking to the adult one is a "complete waste of effort"

Among the problems which arise for the "NON" (non BPs)

They must be able to find the "right" therapist able to help the person who suffers (what does not seem an easy task)
They face the borderline lies and suffer their distortion campaign: "It's HIM who is the sick one, not me !"
They thus are quasi systematically not believed by the entourage of the person who suffers because this one gives an appearance of "normality". They must thus convince of this reality but not by making feel guilty unnecessarily the entourage
They must especially convince the person who suffers to open the eyes on her situation and wanting to help itself (with compassion and empathy).
They have sometimes to face justice, being wrongfully accused of mobbing, private life violation ...

(They speak about assistance to anybody in danger and fight against the hold over sometimes exerted by the entourage)

They finally have to "hold out" and not "to break down" in front of the task's scale to achieve

The association has the purpose to take the following actions

Promote the disease to the public: " There are nothing ashamed to be sick "

Nothing exceptional: 2% of the population. With the circle that's more than 10% population's concerned.
25% of the patients treated for psychiatric disorders would have this personality disorder
Gravity of the disease (suffering, handicaps, risk of suicide 1000 times higher than the rest of the population)

Increase authorities awareness of the problem (not-taking in account the disease has an high cost for the community)

List the experts (in France, french speaking countries) informed about "borderline" disorder (there are deficiencies)
Increase therapist awareness and, we hope for it, form experts with the problem
Increase occupational medecine awareness

To introduce into the minds and into these circumstances, "the duty of interference in love".

We do not have the moral right to let a whole part of the population suffer it from a disease WHICH CAN BE TREATED!

(With respect and empathy to the patient. It is if possible to convincenot to force )

The french law talk about "free will and enlightened assent" of the patient.

"diagnosis obligation" (we talk only about inform the patient, not to force him being treated)

Once more:

How a person

could have a " free and enlightened" opinion and decide by itself to consult a therapist ?

"Inventory" and ways to reach

There is today in France and a lot of countries an absolute vaccum in this domain.
The association must be able to get funds, more particularly public funds (recognized of public interest)
The association must be able to have an high positive image with the relief that she could give

We need to hear these words
"My life radically changed the day I discovered that i was not alone in such situation"

Last update 2020
Page created on november 9th 2002

, founder of the Aapel