non bpd experiences

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Letters of non bp Borderline patients
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Stories (Non-BPD Experiences)
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
The hardest part about acceptance of the person suffering BPD for me was the "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" quality of the disorder and their behavior. One moment I was curled up in the arms of the sweetest, nicest man I'd ever met. The next minute I was fending off an angry tiger that was trying to claw me to death verbally. 
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Don't Blame The BP for Who They Are.
The main advice I give to people involved with a borderline is to tell them to realize that the BP has not singled you out to inflict upon you the pain and hurt of their problem. It took me sometime to realize that my ex husband had not deliberately set out to make my life a misery. It would have happened, to one degree or another, no matter who he had married. Blaming the BP partner for who they are is futile in the extreme and does not help the situation in any way. This does not mean that you must accept the situation but rather you acknowledge the situation for what it is and work from that point.

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What I Gained from Loving Someone with BPD.
I learned a lot about myself and my capacities for living life to the fullest, regardless of what is happening around me or what other people might think. I also learned a lot about the kinds of choices I make in relationships and gained an extraordinary amount of insights about my past, my patterns, and my attractions. I wouldn't have had the opportunity to examine and question myself so thoroughly had it not been for the BP.
I learned to explore the world that I live in, especially in terms of trying new things. And in many ways the adversity of dealing with the BP cemented some of my sense of spirituality. I also learned a lot about my self worth and self esteem, about what is acceptable behavior and what isn't. Also, about my own limits as a person. And, most importantly, about what a great sense of humor I have!
And that, as Eleanor Roosevelt said so beautifully "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

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All the informations on this site are with an aim of helping to understand a "particular" disease at the very least and puzzle
But more especially to support peoples who suffer, sick or not.  In all cases, it is ESSENTIAL to have recourse to a therapist specialized in the disease to confirm or to cancel a diagnosis
Though it is the name doesn't much matter, which is important, it is to apply "the right" treatment to each patient